How much can you love yourself? How good can you be to yourself? Are you willing to put yourself first? Are you willing to step into your own greatness? Can you love yourself as much as you want someone else to love you? Can you say this is my life and it is important? Are you able to do that?
It is hard, to love ourselves. From birth we are taught to put others first. We are taught that taking the back seat is polite, even honorable. We are taught to look up to people, to emulate them, to strive to be a carbon copy of someone else. And we need teachers, and mentors and people who pave the way for us. We need heroes, we need to look up to people. But at some point we need to be our own hero.
And maybe for some us that day is today. Maybe it is time to say I am done sacrificing this one life I have. Maybe today is the day we break free. We can release old patterns that hold us back telling us that we come second. I have seen it over and over again. People give up their lives and take second place. People in relationships do this. One person becomes the star of their world and the other is supporting cast. Children want to please their parents, they make life choices that are not theirs. People deny their true beliefs to conform to a party line or a religion or even a job. All the time, we make adjustment that go against our own true nature.
People settle, everyday people settle. Settle for less than they want, less than they deserve. Why? So we don’t make waves? So we keep people happy? When do we make ourselves happy? Is today the day? Is today the day we say this is my truth, this is who I am, and I love myself. And nothing on this earth is set above that. Is today the day we say my life is important? Is today the day we say my dreams matter? Is today the day we respect our own journey and give it wings?
As close as we are to other humans, we walk alone. Be it our family, our partner, our best friend, there is a separateness. When we die we go alone. No one else lives in our brain nor our hearts. Our mind belongs to us. To not respect this is to devalue this beautiful gift of life.
What do you want, do you want respect, do you want love? Can we really expect that anyone will love or respect if we do not find ourselves worthy of that? Should not the first person to give us these gifts be ourselves?
Adore yourself, delight in yourself. Find your humor at yourself, be compassionate with yourself. Praise yourself, truly be a friend to yourself. Speak well of yourself, take care of yourself. Appreciate your body and enjoy all the things you do with it. Sing to yourself, comfort yourself. Love yourself, can I say it any louder……Love yourself my dearest one. This is the first step to true living, the step to happiness. Recognizing your value, and treating yourself with respect. You are as important as anyone being on this planet. You have a right to your breath. You have a right to your ideas, your dreams, your thoughts. They are as valuable as anyone’s. Never let anyone make you feel less than. Simply by being born you have a right to be happy, to be loved, to be respected, to be honored. It is up to you to exercise those rights.
Let’s do it, let’s make today the day!