Change, transition, acceptance, release. surrender…..oh my gosh, turn the page. Sandy, just turn the page.
“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?”
― Mary Manin Morrissey
I have been noticing mantras in my life lately. So mantras are good to have. I can’t really accept a mantra that comes from outside myself. I can read them and think oh that sounds good. I like that. But to have it in my head and working in my life it has to come from my Source. And I have to pay attention to those. I have a really good one right now “I am a money magnet, it’s the Law”. That comes up for me, a couple times a day. It feels good, it feels positive and it feels authentic.
And here is another one, and this one comes up more frequently and has more struggle around it. Turn the page. Well it feels bigger, turn the page, turn the page, turn the fucking page. Everywhere in my life, just stop with the past, embrace the present and live right here, right now. Turn the page.
Sometimes I do it visually. I see a face like in a book and watch a page turn to cover it up. Turn the page, let it go. I see a way of life that has passed, turn the page. I see a friendship that is completed, turn the page. I see an unhealthy habit I no longer need, turn the page. I see a role in my life that has played out, turn the page. I long for my old home, turn the page. I mourn relationships past, turn the page.
But here is the problem, I can turn those pages from here to eternity but if I am not stepping into something new, I will keep going back. Turning the page and seeing the blank slate scares me. I don’t know what to do with myself. I am so free in my life. I really only take of myself. I only have a couple of relatives left and both of them are adults who have their own lives. Sure if they need me I am there to help, but in daily life no one is dependent on me. I don’t even have a boyfriend. So what do I do with all these blank pages? I don’t know and I think that is why I am stuck. And I turn the same pages over and over.
I can take today and enjoy it, and honestly I will. I will have a good day, I will talk with friends, smile at the world. I am off work this week so I will relax and enjoy myself. But somewhere in the back of my mind and buried within my heart is an echo of “I don’t know what to do with myself and I am a little lost.” And then the past calls me back, and I have to turn the pages all over again.
I don’t know how to step into the future except by one breath at a time. Yesterday I was out walking and I had a moment of fearlessness around the future. I had a moment of my heart saying “I will say yes to everything placed before me”. I had a moment of releasing the past and being right in today. I had a moment of freedom. I had a moment of endless choices and the ability to move into them. I did have that moment. Can I have more than a moment, can I have a day, a week, a month?
Was yesterday my baby step into the future? I believe this to be a truth for me. I need this to be a truth for me. Otherwise I am spinning my wheels and wasting my time. And I don’t really have time to waste. So I am going to remember my baby step and that is page I am holding open. Here I am, free and available to the Universe for a beautiful and fulfilling future. Perhaps Tupac said it best:
“You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could’ve, would’ve happened… or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the fuck on.”
― Tupac Shakur
So I really have to be willing to leave the past in the past. Yesterday I cleaned out drawers and closets, filling bags with things that no longer work in my life. It is a step forward, to let go of what does not fit, what never fit, what someone else thought I should have, what is worn out, torn, stained, simply over. My closet is a microcosm of my my life. A snapshot of who and what I am. I kept the most precious, I kept what works in my life and makes me feel good.. The rest I release to the the Universe. If i can do that with clothes and shoes I can let go of thoughts, ideas and habits that no longer support my growth and my joy. Let it go Sandy, turn the page.