We have to love what is. We have to. I will say it again, We have to love what is. If we want to be happy, if we want to have joy, if we want to have peace, we have to love what is. We awaken each day and are presented with our life. We get to choose how we spend that day. Because the day is, what the day is. Our lives have taken us down many paths, we have wandered through people, places, events, circumstances and they have all brought us to this moment. And we waken to it. And it is ours to live it as we choose.
And where we go from there is what defines us. Here is what is for sure, life is going to change. It could be subtle and slow, it could be overnight, it could come in like tidal wave. And sometimes the change is hard to love, even impossible in that moment. But there always another piece of life to love even in the midst of grief or disaster.
For instance, when I lost my home that was hard to love. I had to watch my son move out on his own under less than ideal circumstances. I had to hand over keys to a home I had married in, raised my child, and pretty much grown up there. It was my grandmothers house before me. So how to love anything about that? Well I get to see my son grow into a man. He takes care of himself, supports himself, he is building his life. He was stuck before, now he is growing. For myself, that house was draining me. It was too much for me, too large. I did not have money to keep it up as it needed. The house took all of my energy and money. So for me, my life is easier. I have much less responsibilities and headaches. I have time now to look around and see what else I want in my life. I feel less stressed, less burdened and way more free. So everything has shifted, I know now that was a gift of growth for my son and myself.
But back to today and loving what is. If we close our eyes to the joys of today because we are missing the past or uncomfortable with the present we cheat ourselves. We have to live in today, and we have to love today, just as it is. Say yesterday was this beautiful blue sky day you spent in joy. That is awesome, but it is done. Now today, the sky is grey. Love the grey day. Don’t miss today because we are looking backwards. Take the joys of yesterday, and the sorrows, and the lessons and move into today and love what is. This is our gift of today, there is always something to love.
“You don’t get to vote on what is.
Have you noticed?”
~ Byron Katie ~
Life is going to happen, it is going to take weird and confusing twists and turns. As I said in my last post I did not think my life was headed in this direction. I can sit in the past and be sad that people I love have passed on, or I can celebrate that so many people I love are here and welcome my love. I can mourn lost relationships and have a pity party, or I can be ready for the next amazing relationship headed my way and be happy that I am open for that. I can be sad that my sister has been through hell physically. or I can be so very amazed at how strong she is and inspired by her fight to have her life back. I can feel lonely that my friend moved away, or I can love her so much that I am happy she is happy. I can accept that in today’s world distance means nothing, and that the love does not change. I can look around and see all the amazing people at my fingertips, friends and family that I can reach out and hug. They are here today, Love what is. I can feel a longing for a time when I lived with my son, his girlfriend and our dogs. It was a perfect moment and a gift. Or I can see that he is stronger, smarter, more confident and that she is in a loving relationships and so very happy. And they both still love me and want me in their lives. How about I be happy with that? How about I love what is.
My life is not perfect, but I am damn well going to love it anyway. I am going to love what I have today, I going to love whatever is coming my way. I am going to enjoy each piece, each step of the journey, each lesson, each joy, every gift. Because I don’t want to waste my days, I want them to spent in love and joy and peace and laughter. I know that is a tall order,. I know I will trip up and that is fine, I will love that part also. And then I will stand up and remember who I am and why I am here. And that is to be Love