Truth or Love? I took one of the those little tests today on Facebook and one of the questions was ” what is most important to you?” There was a list of 5 or 6 things but I easily discarded most of them. And then I was down to Truth or Love and all of a sudden it was not so easy.
I am all about love, so immediately I was headed to love, but truth kept nudging me. Really, do I pick love over truth? Is there even love without truth? Is that love? Can I love someone without being honest? Is that respectful? Does it honor the other person? Do I want to be loved without honesty? I think not. Or do I? Do we have to say every little thing? Couldn’t we just love each other knowing that sometimes we get to not say or share every piece of our thoughts. Is that the kinder, gentler way?
Maybe it is a chicken or the egg question. Which comes first love or truth? Do I have to have love for someone to trust them enough for honesty? Does someone have to love me to feel safe enough to show their true self? Or do I start from a place of honesty and move into love from there, being open and vulnerable? Does another’s honesty give me the room to love them? Does being honest and open allow another to love me, the real me?
I think of people that I love, they do not know all about me. No one knows all the sides of me. Is that dishonest or just me giving each person the piece of me that fits them? I have not found the person where all my pieces fit. I am a sister, a mother, a friend, a lover, a relation and more. All of these roles are filled with love for another. But they are all different and no two loves are the same. They all love me, but differently. Each of these wonderful past and present relationships have brought great lessons and great love. But I would not say every relationship has been completely honest on either side.
So I want to know the truth, I do not want to be fooled, tricked and lied to. But temper the honesty with love and compassion. Take the route that gives us both room to breathe and room to love. Show me the real you, I will show you me. But you and I get to keep our very souls and our thoughts and our minds. Those are sacred to our being and belong to only us.
Truth or love…..I choose love. How about you?