We can change our minds at anytime about anything. Last night a friend made this simplest of statements ” I know I said yes to this, but now I am saying no”. We were talking about attachments and at that point we were discussing relationships and the unspoken agreements we make to stay in relationships. And how we become attached to those agreements long past their expiration date.
But the simplicity of just being able to say no. Can I do that? It sounds so freeing. I don’t want to explain, I don’t want to justify, I don’t need a reason. I could just say” I know I said yes to this , but now I am saying no.” I can make a new agreement that better fits my needs today. We don’t have to stay in old agreements when they no longer serve us. Or when they did not create what we wanted in our lives.
Relationships are our greatest teachers, they hit places in us that nothing else can touch. We show our vulnerabilities, we place ourselves positions that open us up for hurt and also great joy. And relationships are where our agreements are the hardest to change. From family to friends to lovers we have different agreements with everyone. And the other player has made their own agreements. Sometimes we get stuck and we don’t know how to change it. So we stay, we dwell in that place that no longer serves our greatest good.
Here’s the good news, we have a mantra now. “I know I said yes to this, but now I am saying no.” Say it to yourself, believe it and act as if it is already so. Let’s see what happens, it will shake things up. Create a new agreement, a better one. The one that fits the person you are today. Life is creation, go create.